“I thought I had it all, I thought it was the American dream, and it turned out to be a nightmare. … You know he had the entire day [that he resigned] scripted. His entire life had been choreographed, and even as his world was falling apart, he was still trying to script everything and making sure that day went as he wanted it”. –Dina Matos McGreevy, Good Morning America, 5/2/2007
As New Jersey’s former First Lady, Dina Matos McGreevey seemed to have it all: beauty, a lovely young daughter, status as the wife of former Governor Jim McGreevy – all while she was still in her mid-thirties.
Behind the perfect facade, however, was a total lie, as Dina both explained in the September 7, 2011 episode of the Investigation Discovery cable channel program Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry? as well as penned a memoir of her marriage Silent Partner: A Memoir of My Marriage (Hyperion, 2007).
Both on Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry? and in her book, Dina details her marriage to Jim McGreevy, from the early days when she’d fallen in love with him to the final days of betrayal, scandal, and heartbreak.
As McGreevy resigned as governor in August 2004, revealing he was a “gay American,” Dina stood by in silence, her outward grace not showing any signs of the inward emotions she’d felt at that very moment as her husband made the shocking revelation during a press conference. The couple separated two months later, with their divorce final in August 2008.
Dina remained silent about her marriage for many years before writing Silent Partner. The day her book was released, she appeared on Oprah Winfrey promoting her book, the first of several media appearances.
She is a fine example that a woman can come back from devastating circumstances, be a positive influence on women who also face challenging situations, and offer women hope for stronger futures.